Diana and I are getting ready to celebrate 18 years of marriage in September. If you were to ask us what the secret of our success was we could tell of some many things. But as I sit here today thinking about everything that we have gone thru I have a couple things to share.

 First if you go to all the popular books and read the websites you get the general stuff like.

 1.Communcation

2.Love

3.Arguing fair

4. Respecting each other.

 And many more thoughts and Ideas. But the problem with the alot of the websites is that they miss the one key componet. During the first 12 years of Diana’s and my marriage we were both saved but we were still missing that key. We went to church but still missing that key.

 That key that we were missing was putting God FIRST in our marriage. We did the right things, but never relied on God for our marriage. We walked around in a fog thinking that God would just fix everything, we would just have to wait on him. Not knowing or realizing that we need to do some work.

 When we we were on the brink of the big “D” (divorce) word, did we realize that God would fix us by us relying on him, but by seeking him, getting professional christian counseling and working on ourselves. Anyone that says marriage is not hard or that you don’t have to work on your marriage is lying.

 I can honestly say that after we got counseling, sought the true meaning and help of God first in our relationship, did things turn around. We all know that we must put God first in all we do. Some people make the mistake and don’t put God first in the marriage. God first in your marriage is the absoulte secret to success. We must embrace the addage that a couple that prays together stays together. It is true but take it a step further a couple that seeks God together stays together.

 I love Diana more than I ever have. I can not ever imagine life with out her. God has blessed me with the best wife in the world. I am just sorry that it took me so many years to realize the blessing that he had given me.